Traditionally, Valentine’s Day is all about love, romance, relationships and togetherness. However,  some people, especially coming out of a pandemic, may experience feelings of loss, grief and loneliness.  We understand how these feelings can be difficult to navigate particularly on this day–we want you to know that you are not alone. Practicing self-love and self-care is critical in supporting your mental health.

Many of us may feel lonely and experience grief and not just on one day of the year. Loneliness and grief isn’t just a feeling–it’s a health issue as it can affect us physically, emotionally and mentally. For the first time in 2022, we found that nearly 1 in 5 texters discussed feeling isolated or lonely. This is why it is essential that we make efforts to support individuals experiencing these emotions, which will help to improve their overall mental wellness.  

If this day is difficult for you or someone close to you, we are here to support you. We had the opportunity to invite one of our clinical experts to share with you some tips and coping mechanisms because you deserve the gift of love on this day and every day. 

Meet Crisis Text Line’s VP of Clinical Supervision, Shinise Muse

Prior to joining as VP of Clinical Supervision, Shinise Muse first worked as a volunteer Crisis Counselor where she gained invaluable training. She currently manages 97 supervisors that monitor all texter conversations and navigates any issues that may impact the quality or efficacy of our 24/7 service. Her greatest passion is empowering mindsets that guide people to healing, personal and professional success and quality relationships. 

What advice/tips would you give to someone who is going through grief and loneliness on Valentine’s Day? 

• Honor your loved one’s memory: Have a verbal or written conversation with your loved one. Sometimes acknowledging their presence in your heart and mind could bring comfort for some people but may be too painful for others. 

• Be your own Valentine: Go out on your perfect date, alone. Book a table for one at your favorite restaurant. Spending time with yourself can make you feel confident and can build self-awareness. 

• Practice self care: Take a candlelit bath with your favorite scents and candles or read your favorite book in a cafe.

• Talk to someone: If you are feeling depressed or having a hard time coping, reach out to a trusted friend, family member, therapist or text 741741. It’s never too early to ask for help. Getting support could help you unlock the tools to get out of the dark place.

• Visit a nursing home or shelter: Spread love to people who are often overlooked or don’t feel loved. Their appreciation can be heartwarming.

• Practice your coping skills: If you’re feeling sad or lonely, taking care of yourself can feel like a feat. Pick one thing to focus on like listening to music, getting a massage, taking a yoga class, meditating or eating a healthy meal.

• Life as usual: Just because it’s Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you have to do anything special. Go about your day as usual…no pressure.

Why is self-love/self-care so important to a person’s mental health?

Self-love is a state of appreciation for one’s self that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. When we practice various elements of self-love/self-care, we are attending to the whole of ourselves which affects how we think, act and feel. Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve. This can mean something different for each person. Suggestions include: prioritize yourself, give yourself a break from self judgment, be true and nice to yourself, trust yourself and set healthy boundaries.

Does spending time with friends/family/loved ones on this day help reduce loneliness/grief?

Yes – spending time with friends, family and/or loved ones can be helpful in reducing loneliness and grief and can increase feelings of connectedness, appreciation and belonging. There may be situations where spending physical time with friends, family and/or loved ones on Valentine’s Day is not possible however, video calls, texts, or a phone call may also help reduce loneliness and grief. Hearing the voice of someone you love may elicit feelings of comfort and happiness. 

Let’s celebrate self-love this Valentine’s Day and remind ourselves that we are valued and loved, which can also help to reduce loneliness and grief. Check out our latest set of GIPHYs to incorporate self-love today and everyday. 

If you need support, we are here for you 24/7. To be connected to a live, trained volunteer Crisis Counselor, text HELLO or 443-SUPPORT in WhatsApp or text HOLA to 741741 or 442-AYUDAME in WhatsApp for Spanish.